<\/em>moment toward \u2014 you guessed it \u2014 the therapist.<\/p>\n\n\n\nImagine a patient feeling anger toward a parent and then suddenly lashing out at the therapist. The therapist did nothing wrong. So what happened here?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s called \u201ctransference,\u201d since the feeling is being \u201ctransferred\u201d from one person to another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Imagine the turbulent emotional relationships these patients are going through. Perhaps they\u2019re upset with a roommate or jealous of a sibling. Perhaps they burnt their breakfast or forgot to bring their lunch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What\u2019s really bothering them has nothing to do with the therapist. That\u2019s transference. They\u2019re mad at someone else entirely and just directing the emotion at whoever is in front of them. Yet the therapist remains calm and respectful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now imagine that YOU are a therapist. And the difficult people in your life are your patients. When you think of your relationships this way, you\u2019ll be able to strengthen your ability to tolerate difficult people and unpleasant interactions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In one of the most famous conflicts in the Torah, a man named Korach brought a sharp claim against Aaron the High Priest. In truth, he was driven by his jealousy of someone else, named Elitzafon. He transferred his feelings from one person to another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We may not know with prophetic clarity what underlying forces motivate someone to act crazy. They may be reacting to powerful emotions that have nothing to do with us whatsoever. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
To such a person, you can show pity. They clearly need some shalom in their life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
And when you do this, you\u2019ll find it easy to overlook the offense. You won\u2019t take it personally because it really has nothing to do with you at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Try this today: If you encounter an agitated person, imagine that they\u2019re having a terrible day, muster up some pity in your heart, and disregard their offensive remarks.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Today, let\u2019s take a lesson from the psychiatrist\u2019s couch.<\/p>\n
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